On Sunday afternoon, the older children and the Haitian sisters and I participated in a prayer, procession and special mass for the youth. We started at a parish church with some prayers. The priest was enthusiastic, and I could see that he is probably very good with young people. I think I was sprayed with holy water nearly half a dozen times during the opening prayers. There were many people who participated in the long walk from that parish to the cathedral. We sang and danced in the streets, as we marched and from time to time we were directed to, "bat bravo pou Jezi," (clap our hands for Jesus.) It seems people joined us along the way, because the smaller church where we started was not full, but the much larger cathedral was full (although not overflowing this time.) It was quite an experience and the young people including our older children at the orphanage who really seemed to find it meaningful. So often I impressed by the deep faith so common and often so freely expressed in the Haitian culture.
I hope that you are experiencing many graces and blessings during this Holy Week and may you experience the joy of the resurrection and abundant new life as we celebrate Easter.
Weekly updates of my experiences in preparing to go and actually living and working in Haiti. The primary purpose is to keep those who are interested up to date.
Tuesday, March 31, 2015
Thursday, March 26, 2015
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Tuesday, March 17, 2015
March and Mass
During the past few months some convents in various places
in Haiti have been broken into, burglarized.
Last Wednesday the religious of the diocese of Cap-Haitian and many lay
supporters gathered together to bring attention to the problem or crime in Haiti
and to pray for those who have been victimized and for an end to the crime
sprees. Together, we marched from one
down town church to the cathedral, Haitians and foreigners, elderly, middle age
and young, religious, and lay, men and women.
When we arrived at the cathedral we, the sisters, were directed to sit
in a section at the front of the church to the right of the altar. At first I wondered why they were going to
squeeze us into that section when the pews of the large cathedral were all
empty. What I had not realized, since we
had arrived as the march was starting and joined towards the front where other
Holy Cross sisters were, that so many people were behind us or at least would
be joining us for the liturgy. The
entire cathedral was full to capacity; people were sitting on the steps that
lead to the altar, and on the raised floor near the sides of the altar, while
others stood filling the isles. At
communion the priest came to the pew and leaned over me to give communion to
the others in the pew since there was not enough space in the nearby isle to
form a line. When I think a pew is full
to absolute capacity, and would probably be considered so in most American
churches, there is always room for at least one or two more people, if any space
exists between any two people in the pew another person may and probably will
squeeze in. I was very touched that so
many people would come to this mass to stand with the religious as we try to
stand with those who have been victimized.
Many of the hymns we sang had justice and solidarity themes. A higher percentage of the liturgy was in
Haitian Creole when compared with the daily mass we sometimes attend in the
early morning hours at the same cathedral.
I left the church with a sense of hope, peace and renewed energy,
feeling connected with God and with all those who had gathered. There may be a few people committing crimes
against religious and others in this country but there were so many more
willing to spend their Wednesday morning marching, praying and singing for an
end to crime, people desiring peace, justice and people creating a sense of solidarity.
The blog may look different in a week or two. There are a lot of blog templates that just were not available when I started blogging that are much more attractive and have other advantages as well, so I'd like to give mine a face-lift one of these days.
Happy St. Patrick's Day! Take care.
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
Brief Random Updates and Thoughts
Relatives of one of the sisters, who is from Canada, are visiting with us for several weeks. On Sunday they prepared a day of activities for the children. It was the Olympics of Hope! The children really enjoyed the friendly athletic competitions, the awards ceremony and gifts that followed. It was truly a great day for all. I have enjoyed the presence of this lovely couple in our house. The children love them and they are so good to the kids. They each speak a little English, and even less Creole; the majority of meal time conversations are once again mostly in French, which I personally find quite challenging; their kindness makes it worth the challenge.
Since I am mostly doing clinical work, out of respect for the confidentiality of the children, I do not share many details about the children or they work I am doing with them, so sometimes there are interesting and good things happening that I am not comfortable mentioning most especially on a public blog. I know that other missionaries and volunteers who work in various places and who are not social workers are less concerned about this than I am, and their blogs are much more interesting because they post pictures of the children and share more details.
The internet plan I have is supposedly unlimited, at least that is what it is called. Last Wednesday when I was participating in an on-line play therapy training, and on other recent occasions when trying to Skype, I have found it to have many limitations and the connection can be unpredictably slow at seemingly random times and perfectly adequate at other moments. So I alternate between feel frustrated by it and very grateful for it. Maybe they should think of another name that captures that reality.
Every Friday afternoon the children each get a 20 minute turn to ride a bicycle in our yard. They enjoy and look forward to this activity of course. A few months ago, one of the older boys asked me if I knew how to ride and I said, "yes." He seemed skeptical and got off of the bike, sacrificing a few minutes of his precious time to see me ride, perhaps thinking I would give him a reason to laugh. He seemed very impressed as I happily and effortlessly circled the house of the younger children. Earlier that same day, when the girls had asked me if I knew how to wash clothes (by hand,) I reluctantly said that I "yes, but not as well as you do." They too had wanted me to show them how I do it; in that case I knew they would not find my technique up to par but showed them anyway giving them something to laugh about. So in the eyes of some of the children, my clothes washing skills may be lacking but others seem to find my bike riding skills impressive. Like my "unlimited" internet key, I have limits and gifts. One of the bicycles the older children use, is remarkably similar to a bicycle that I purchases with a tax refund check while I was in college which is currency sitting probably unused (although I did tell the sisters they are welcome to use it) somewhere in New Orleans. This morning, since it is my day off, and it is not Friday afternoon when the bikes would be in use, I borrowed the bicycle that resembles my own and went for a bike ride. It felt wonderful!
When Lent started I thought to myself, oh good, at least on Fridays we won't have those sausages that are really hot dogs to eat. They are often cut up and put into pasta, soup, omelets, and other dishes at the evening meal. If they are served at the noon time meal they are separate so one can easily not take them. It is surprising to me that the religious/cultural not eating meat on Friday during lent tradition, is not really followed at the orphanage given that other Catholic traditions are adhered to. Since I prefer not to eat too much meat anyway, and don't think those hot dogs have any nutritional value, I am not necessarily wanting the tradition to be followed for the purest and holiest of reasons. It does seem ironic that I had that self-serving thought which clearly misses the point of Lent, and it turned out to be WRONG anyway.
So don't trust that anything called unlimited really is without limits and if you are Catholic to leave the hot dog pieces out of your Friday night meal. Take Care. Many Blessings!
Since I am mostly doing clinical work, out of respect for the confidentiality of the children, I do not share many details about the children or they work I am doing with them, so sometimes there are interesting and good things happening that I am not comfortable mentioning most especially on a public blog. I know that other missionaries and volunteers who work in various places and who are not social workers are less concerned about this than I am, and their blogs are much more interesting because they post pictures of the children and share more details.
The internet plan I have is supposedly unlimited, at least that is what it is called. Last Wednesday when I was participating in an on-line play therapy training, and on other recent occasions when trying to Skype, I have found it to have many limitations and the connection can be unpredictably slow at seemingly random times and perfectly adequate at other moments. So I alternate between feel frustrated by it and very grateful for it. Maybe they should think of another name that captures that reality.
Every Friday afternoon the children each get a 20 minute turn to ride a bicycle in our yard. They enjoy and look forward to this activity of course. A few months ago, one of the older boys asked me if I knew how to ride and I said, "yes." He seemed skeptical and got off of the bike, sacrificing a few minutes of his precious time to see me ride, perhaps thinking I would give him a reason to laugh. He seemed very impressed as I happily and effortlessly circled the house of the younger children. Earlier that same day, when the girls had asked me if I knew how to wash clothes (by hand,) I reluctantly said that I "yes, but not as well as you do." They too had wanted me to show them how I do it; in that case I knew they would not find my technique up to par but showed them anyway giving them something to laugh about. So in the eyes of some of the children, my clothes washing skills may be lacking but others seem to find my bike riding skills impressive. Like my "unlimited" internet key, I have limits and gifts. One of the bicycles the older children use, is remarkably similar to a bicycle that I purchases with a tax refund check while I was in college which is currency sitting probably unused (although I did tell the sisters they are welcome to use it) somewhere in New Orleans. This morning, since it is my day off, and it is not Friday afternoon when the bikes would be in use, I borrowed the bicycle that resembles my own and went for a bike ride. It felt wonderful!
When Lent started I thought to myself, oh good, at least on Fridays we won't have those sausages that are really hot dogs to eat. They are often cut up and put into pasta, soup, omelets, and other dishes at the evening meal. If they are served at the noon time meal they are separate so one can easily not take them. It is surprising to me that the religious/cultural not eating meat on Friday during lent tradition, is not really followed at the orphanage given that other Catholic traditions are adhered to. Since I prefer not to eat too much meat anyway, and don't think those hot dogs have any nutritional value, I am not necessarily wanting the tradition to be followed for the purest and holiest of reasons. It does seem ironic that I had that self-serving thought which clearly misses the point of Lent, and it turned out to be WRONG anyway.
So don't trust that anything called unlimited really is without limits and if you are Catholic to leave the hot dog pieces out of your Friday night meal. Take Care. Many Blessings!
Monday, March 2, 2015
Tomat, and working cross-culturally
We grow some of our own food here on the grounds of the orphanage. Twice, I have made tomato sauce with basil using fresh ingredients from the garden. I was pleased with the results and enjoyed an Italian meal for a change, well probably not truly authentic Italian food, but considering that I am an Irish-American living in Haiti....
A new child arrived on Friday, although she is clearly school age, we are not sure if she has attended school in the past and we don't yet know if the school here will take her this far into the school year. The education system if very different here and the idea that children have a right to go to school might exist on paper but not in practice, as there are many children in this country who do not attend school. As an individual, and an American who studied education undergrad, my thinking would be that the school needs to include her; but, there are differences because of culture, experience and education in how we approach and perceive situations. Lately I have been aware of these challenges, in many varied situations which I encounter regularly. As a Social worker I strive to be culturally competent, and respect the values and beliefs of the culture in which I am working, while always attempting to advocate for what is in the best interest for the child, or those who are most vulnerable, while considering the common good; this is the ideal and I don't claim that I meet this ideal with any regularity. It would be unfair, and inaccurate, if I assume that what initially seems best to me, really is. There are always little struggles and constantly I am needing to discern my response and pray to know when to remain silent, what to accept , what to challenge, when to speak, how to listen well, and how to speak in a way that is respectful and open to the perspective of others who can teach me much. In a few simple situations this is not too terribly difficult, but in many it is extremely challenging and certainly, I mess up, frequently. Working in a different cultural context, if nothing else certainly requires constantly being stretched and learning and relearning the virtue of humility.
I hope that you are well. Thanks for reading. Feel free to leave a comment. Wish I could send you some fresh tomatoes. Take care!
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